How to Help an Adoptive Family

We’re grateful for the many friends and family members who’ve supported us in the last three years as we’ve grown our family by adoption. There are tons of challenges in adoption, and we’ve learned and continue to learn new lessons about parenting and raising kids in our crazy family.

If you’ve ever wanted to help an adoptive family and wondered how best to do it, here’s a great article on Ashlee Andrews’ blog. Like us, the Andrews family has children both in the “traditional manner” as well as by adoption. Our experiences–and those of other adoptive families we know–are very similar to those described by Ashlee.

Thanks to Ashlee for her insightful post.

Movie: An Interview with Liam

Stretching a little more into movie making, this time with a short documentary-style project with Liam. If the movie doesn’t show above, you can hit this link.

My plan is to do more of these experiments and create one for each of the kids.

Big K is 16

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This week we celebrated Kieran’s 16th birthday.

On Saturday, Big K had some friends over for Ethiopian food and a movie. This was the first time any of them had tasted Ethiopian dishes but they all enjoyed them.

The other Gowin kids decorated Kieran’s room with paper chains–they used a lot of green, I think, because his birthday is so close to St. Patrick’s Day. He also had dinner out at our favorite restaurant with a cow out front and then Skyped with a friend… somewhere.

It’s strange to think of having a 16-year-old in our house. We don’t have just “little kids” any more. We’ve turned a corner.

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Video: “Old Stuff”

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And now for something a little different.

It’s spring break for me (Michael) this week and I wanted to get out of the teaching routine, stretch my legs a bit. So I decided to make a short film about old things in and around our house.

Have a look. And watch until the end–there’s a punchline.

What Do You Remember?

Note: I gave this communion meditation at church this morning. Thought you might appreciate it.

Have you ever wondered why you remember what you do? How does that work?

Socials scientists and the people who study these things have a number of theories and have identified several factors that influence memory. One of those is surprise. When something unexpected happens, we tend to remember it. Surprise gets our attention because it lifts us out of our routines, takes us out of the ordinary. Let me give you an example.

Many, many Christmases ago, when my brother, Marc, and I were probably 3 and 4, we were very eager to open our Christmas presents. My parents knew this and suspected that we might get up before everyone else to get a head start on the gift opening, so they posted my grandfather as a guard in the living room. We got up out of bed, Marc and I, at one point and Gramps chased us back to bed, presents safe, mission accomplished.

But then we got up again. And Gramps was sleeping on the sofa. And we got into the living room. And Gramps didn’t wake up.

So we started to open presents. Only, we couldn’t read the nametags so we didn’t know which presents were ours. So we just unwrapped all of them.

Every. Single. One.

And my grandfather slept through the whole thing.

Now, why is that memorable?

In part, because it’s unexpected. We all have holiday traditions and, though they might vary somewhat, they probably go like this: get up, have breakfast, open gifts, play, eat lunch, go to grandmas house, watch football, play a game–you get the idea. On that particular Christmas, though, Marc and I broke the pattern. We did something surprising, something unexpected, and that’s what makes it memorable.

You’re probably thinking of some holiday yourself–a Christmas, Thanksgiving, birthday–where something didn’t go as planned, either good or bad, and you remember it.

Now, before you get lost in that thought, listen to this: Jesus, at the last supper with his disciples, did something surprising as well.

For hundreds of years, God’s people had celebrated the Passover. They shared a meal together as a way to remember how God led them out of slavery in Egypt. When Jesus celebrated Passover with his disciples that last time, he took the bread that would represent his broken body and said, “This is my body. Do this in remembrance of me.” He did the same with the cup, a cup that represented God’s promise of redemption. “Do this in remembrance of me.” Jesus was identifying himself as both the Passover sacrifice and the fulfillment of God’s saving promise. No one else could or would have done that.

He broke the pattern, did something unexpected, something surprising at that last Passover. Because he was going to do something even more surprising than that: break the pattern of sin and death that had enslaved us all and give us new life and new hope.

Songs for Christmas (or Any Time)

I love Christmas music.

There, I’ve said it.

But the local radio station starts playing Christmas songs on Thanksgiving weekend and I get burned out on their 100-song rotation. Who will save us?

For me, the best Christmas songs are songs of faith, songs that speak to the mystery and wonder of God Incarnate. And I’m also interested in arrangements and interpretations of traditional songs that give them new life.

Two albums that never get old for me are Bruce Cockburn’s Christmas and Sufjan Stevens’ Songs for Christmas. Cockburn’s record contains some gems but his simple rendition of “Silent Night” is money. My favorite songs on Stevens’ album actually aren’t the Christmas songs but two hymns, “Come Thou Fount” and “Holy Holy Holy.” Not a fan of all the graphics in the videos below; close your eyes and enjoy the tunes.

What records are you listening to in the Christmas season?